Building Obedience in a slave.

Out 2019 slave training retreat was a resounding success. We included cuckolding and hot wife retreat in 2019 in a limited way.  
Our 2020 slave training retreat is not operational due to COVID-19. We hope to come back in 2021. stay tuned. was a resounding success. I am accepting six more online and twelve rt training Applications for 2021.  Master Gunter. I am not accepting any more orders for my custom made remote training collars unless it is fitted inhouse.

Where does out training occur:   We may add an 8 acre island Moho Caye to our current training site in the near future which may open up more applications. We may also take in single women and gay men for slave training at Moho Caye. This is still in the works. We are working to make this happen by 2019. Our training is currently available on Amber Cayo Espanto in Belize. Amber Cayo Espanto is located on its own beautiful tropical private 24-acre island, 8-minutes by boat from San Pedro.
see FAQ: http://slavetrainingfaq.blogspot.com   American Airlines and Continental Airlines both offer service to Belize City. Guests (husbands) and slaves (wives) arriving at the Phillip S W Goldson International Airport (BZE) in Belize City will be greeted by our staff, where they will arrange a local flight to San Pedro in Ambergris Caye for approximately $120 round-trip, or helicopter transport directly to Cayo Espanto island for approximately $1,140 (US) one-way or $2,280 round-trip, plus tax, for four.  Note: If you arriving for training and choose to take the boat, You will be stripped naked upon boarding the boat and your garment tossed out at sea and you will be fitted with a shock collar and leash before arrival on Amber Cayo Espanto. Your husband may bring you in to Espanto. Your training begins on arrival. You are expected to embark on all four and will be led on all fours to your quarters. You are forbidden human speech, forbidden human posture, Your locomotion will be on all four unless commanded. You may be taught tricks as functions of arbitrary sounds or sounds of foreign lanugages (Portuguese, Q’eqchi’ Maya,  Mopan Maya, Yucatec Maya, or Belizean Creole )  so that you must learn them as any animal might without the benefit of an earlier understanding of the word used. If you are slow in learning, you will be punished, as would any other animal, when used too, it will be commonly be in the modality of the quadrupled. It will help you to understand what you are nfow, an animal totally subject to your Master's will. Your "all four" training will be for a period of one week. you may choose to extend it by disobeying and will continue until you learn to obey all commands. Until then, you are on all fours. 

Flight times from Miami or Houston are a mere 2 hours. For slaves traveling by local airline, on arrival at San Pedro airport you will be met by our training staff and transferred to the Espanto by boat.
Is your husband going to be around when you are trained?  This has been a problem at times and has been a blessing at other times, so we will consider this on an case by case basis. Generally, Husbands are expected to cool off on the nearby island of Ambergris Cays which has an excellent night life or are required to drop their wife off for the required duration. A daily progress report and a weekly comprehensive report on their wife's training is emailed to them at a pre-determined email address.

Obedience is a form of social conditioning and influence where an slave acts in response to a direct order from her Master, who is usually her authority figure. It is assumed that without such an order the slave would not have acted in this way.

Obedience implies compliance with the direction or command given to the slave by her Master. For a slave to be considered obedient rather than simply trained in obedience, she must respond reliably each time the command is given, by her Master. A slave can go through Obedience training and not be totally obedient requiring additional drastic training technics. If a slave is referred to as being Obedience Trained she should comply immediately with every command her Master gives her. In the strictest sense an Obedience trained slave is an obedient slave.

Training a slave in obedience can be an ongoing and lengthy process depending on the slave and her Master, the methods used, and the skill and understanding of both the Master and the slave. The level of obedience the Master wishes to achieve with the slave is also a major factor in the time involved, as is the commitment to training by the Master.
                                                                                        pic with permission from Masteroflaura@gmail.com

Obedience training is often a prerequisite for or component of other training such as anal training, bi-sexual training, cock sucking training, pussy eating training etc.

The actual training of the slave can be done by anyone, not just her Master or her owner. Typically the Master who is training the slave participates and trains the slave, as He will be the one who will be giving the commands. The relationship and trust between the slave and her Master are important for success.

Basic obedience training is typically a short course ranging from six to ten weeks, where it is demonstrated to the Master how to communicate with and train the slave into deeper slavery in a few simple commands. With most methods the slave is trained one group of commands at a time. Though there may or may not be a specific word attached to it, slave positions is often the first training required prior to learning other comands such as walking properly on a leash, or leash control, cock worship, gorean techniques are often some of the training required prior to learning other more indebt commands.

Commands

The specific command word is not important, but consistency in usage is. There are certain commands that are accepted as standard and commonly used. 

When under training or in slave or service mode, the slave is often naked when at home. If anything is worn, she is usually in a collar, leash or lead, and perhaps a tail if she is also trained as a puppy/kit ty.

Below: Our trained slave Anita (not her real name) after 3 months on the island...We enjoyed having and training her into a slave. she came as an high and mighty adulteress wife pouty and snobbish wanting a divorce and in the beginning resisted all forms of training until she was broken and tamed, went back a docile and tamed slave willing to do housework on all fours, washing dishes, cleaning carpets and doing laundry on command, we are looking forward to her training again next summer. 



Inspection Position
 In inspection position one such as she would normally be stripped, and standing with her feet spread, and her hands clasped either behind the back of her neck, or behind her head. In this way the breasts are lifted nicely, and, given the position
of the hands, one has no interference to one’s vision, and, similarly, one may, perhaps walking about her, test her for firmness, and for vitality, and such things. ”

obedientlaura in inspection position. Permission to post obtained from Masterofobedientlaura@gmail.com

 

Nadu Position:

The first and most used of all Gorean slave positions, and also one of the first ones a slave learns.  Nadu is the Gorean word for "kneel".  In this position the slave kneels,  sits upon her heels with her back and shoulders straight, chest out, belly in and her head up, though her eyes are downcast.  Thighs are widely spread, hands resting upon thighs, palms upward.

Tower Slave Position:

       This position is another variation of nadu in which the slave kneels the same way but her palms down and her knees modestly together.  This position is typically reserved for underage or White Silk slaves, or those slaves who do not serve their Master/Mistress in a sexual way.

Bara:

       Also known as Belly Position.  Bara is the Gorean word for "belly" and slave is expected to respond to either command in the same fashion.  In this position the slave falls to her stomach, face down to the floor and turned to the left, crosses her wrists behind her back and similarly crosses her ankles.  legs are straight in preparation for binding.

I would later become extremely familiar with such positions, but they were, at the time, quite new to me, and somewhat frightening. What most frightened me about them was the way they made me feel. It was not merely that, in them, I found profoundly stirred. In them, helplessly, vulnerably, I also sensed a personal rightness. I knew that in some sense I belonged in them. This was in contradiction to my entire upbringing, background, education and conditioning. Could such things have been wrong? 

Belly: or Ass position

The slave moves to her belly, hands palms down near the sides of her head, forehead to the ground and waits for further orders

Crawl: 

The slave gets down on all fours, palms to elbows flat against the floor, bottom in the air, forehead close but not quite touching the ground and crawls to within inches of the Master's feet.

Capture:

The slave lays down upon her back, bending her knees to place her feet flat against the ground, hands at her side and remains motionless

Sula:  or Pussy Position

       Also known as Prone Position.  The slave lays upon her back, her hands at her sides, palms upward, legs widely spread to await her Master's pleasure.

Sula-Ki:

       Also known as Alternative Sula.   This position is almost identical to Sula position but she slowly lifts her hips off the floor, as if beckoning the Master with her body encouraging her sexual use.

Lesha:

       Also known as Binding Position.   The Gorean word Lesha means "leash".  In this position, the slave remains standing or kneeling, depending upon the current position she is in.  She turns and puts her back to the Master, back and shoulders straight, wrists extened behind her, side by side in a position to be locked into chained slave bracelets, her chin up, her head turned to the left so a leash may be attached to the collar.

Bracelets:

       Also known as Chaining Position.   In this position the slave stands gracefully before the master, with her hips slightly turned to one side, her back and shoulders erect, her wrists crossed behind her and her head turned to the left, in anticipation of having slave bracelts attached to her wrists.

Ko-Lar:

Also known as Collaring Position or the Position of female Submission.  the slave kneels at the Master's feet and leans her body back, sitting upon her heels, her arms extended upward, crossed at the wrists, her head beneath them and lowered in supplication.

Hair Position:

       The slave stands, her feet flat on the floor, and bows gracefully at the waist, just so her hair might fall forward for display, or to be shorn, seized, or used for any purpose the Master desires.

Whipping Position:

       In this position, the slave first assumes the nadu position, though her arms are crossed in front of her.  She then leans forward and places her head to the floor, first sweeping her hair forward and over her shoulders in order to have her back fully exposed to the whip.
 

Obedience Position:

       The slave goes to the floor, alying upon her stomach, face down before the Master.  She turns her head and places her cheek against the Master's feet, kissing them lightly in a gesture of love and submission.

She-Sleen Position:

       Also known as "assuming the modality of the she-quadruped".  In this position, the slave falls to hands and knees, her head down on the floor, her hindquarters upthrusted for the viewing pleasure of the Master.  "Serving in the modality of the she-quadruped" is an instruction whereby the slave performs her regular duties upon hands and knees, withought the benefit of the use of her hands.  In this mode she may not rise to her feet and may only use her mouth and teeth to grasp and maniulate objects.

Leading Position:

       The slave stands and moves behind the master, bending at the waist.  She places her hands behind her and puts the side of her head to the Master's hip, that he might lead her easily by the hair or collar while walking.


Table Position: goes to all fours, her back straight, her legs parted, hands perpendicular to her body, palms flat upon floor, her hair pulled off over the left shoulder. (the slave may now be used as a table or foot rest) 

Slaver's kiss Position: to the floor on all fours ...her head lowered to the ground ...buttocks high in the air ...thighs widely spread ...her slave's heat exposed 

In order to obey (Master's) authority, the obeying person (slave) has to be programmed to accept that it is legitimate (i.e. rightful, legal) for the command to be made of them.  

Obedience occurs when a fully trained slave is issued a command to do something (authority), whereas conformity happens through social pressure (the norms of the majority). Obedience involves a hierarchy of power / status. Therefore, the Master giving the order has a higher status than the slave receiving the order.

Real Life Example of Obedience (sic)

Adolf Eichmann was executed in 1962 for his part in organizing the Holocaust, in which six million Jewish people, as well as gypsies, communists and trade unionists were transported to death camps and murdered in Nazi Germany and surrounding countries under Nazi control.

Eichmann was a logistical genius whose part in the Holocaust was the planning of the efficient collection, transportation and extermination of those to be killed.  At his trial in 1961, Eichmann expressed surprise at being hated by Jewish people, saying that he had merely obeyed orders, and surely obeying orders could only be a good thing. In his jail diary Eichmann wrote 'The orders were, for me, the highest thing in my life and I had to obey them without question' (extract quoted in The Guardian, 12 August, 1999, p. 13).

Eichmann was declared sane by six psychiatrists, he had a normal family life and observers at his trial described him as very average.  Given that there appears to be nothing particularly unusual about Eichmann, we must face the uncomfortable possibility that his behavior was the product of the social situation in which he found himself, and that under the right circumstances we may all be capable of monstrous acts.

Following the Second World War - and in particular the Holocaust - psychologists set out to investigate the phenomenon of human obedience. Early attempts to explain the Holocaust had focused on the idea that there was something distinctive about German culture that had allowed the Holocaust to take place.

Stanley Milgram set out to test the research question 'are Germans different?', but he quickly found that we are all surprisingly obedient to people in authority. In one of the most famous series of experiments in psychology Milgram (1963-74) demonstrated that most participants would give a helpless victim fatal electric shocks when ordered to. Milgram later ran a number of variations to the basic study, to find out more about the particular factors which might influence obedience.

slave mira's obedience essay ( sent in by slave mira)

I am a submissive woman ( sent in by leashedlaura)

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Submission is a gift given, not taken. Domination is mastering oneself first, before all others. And trust is what binds each together. These are the most important things that I have learned in the 10 years I have been in the lifestyle and I'm interested in talking to slaves and subs who are curious. remember slavery is illegal. Only consentual BDSM erotic play is legal between consenting adults.

Milton once said that the mind is it own place and in itself, can make a heaven of hell and hell of heaven. This describes the type of play I enjoy the most. I learn your desires and fears and find ways of bring those emotions to the surface and experience them using any methods as required.

Loyalty, Honesty, Discipline, Creativity, Humility, Intensity, Curiosity, Manners, Courage, Obedience, Humour, Intelligence, Endurance, Flexibility, Patience, Gratitude, Spontaneity, Faith and Commitment - this is mostly who I am and mostly what I am looking for in a slave. Pick one of these and explain what you can and will be and how you will change for your Master. Master Gunter:trainherwell@gmail.com

Accepting who you are.

Two of the most overwhelming challenges all creatures born human are faced with are identifying who we are, and then accepting who we are. Whether Owner, Master, slave or anyone else, the challenges are equally great. In this group we are relating only to those whose lives are defined by who they are, and the associated title they claim. An Owner always IS who someone is. There is no alternative. Masters and slaves might be equally born to BE either Master or slave. Or, Masters and slaves might be born to have their mastery or slavery as only one more thing that they do, just like being a carpenter or fireman. Either way, we either ARE our roles, or those roles are only what we do.

Owners, along with the Masters and slaves, potential Masters or slaves or those exploring their mastery or slavery, who belong to this group know somehow that these titles are more than a profession, a hobby, or just another characteristic of who we are.

The first challenge, of identifying who we are, is easy for some, and extremely difficult for others. Everyone comes to the self realization in their own unique way. Along the way, a lot of things seem true for awhile, but through exploring and the experiences gained, we let go of those old beliefs and move on to new beliefs and new self images. We all start with our egotistic self image and the beliefs that allow our ego's control.

We also start out with average descriptions of who we are. From the moment we understand a language we are taught what is expected of us. Those expectations are always within the very limited confines of acceptable human behavior. This is how we are controlled and socialized.

Here, among this group, we are exploring becoming extraordinary. All the arguments that apply to average human beings belong with discussions of average people. The movement to becoming spiritually mature involves relinquishing average human logic in deference to Divine logic.

We don’t define life. We can only discover life. When we quit trying to become what we’re not, often after exhaustion, we can accept who we are. That takes great courage, and sometimes great pain. It is never without cost.

As average citizens, if we enter a burning building to retrieve a fire victim we are considered heroes. Our egos love being heroes. That’s what the ego strives for. If, however, we claim ourselves to be a fireman, from qualifying to do so, we no longer have the option to go past anyone in a burning building. We are then doing the minimum expected if we go to extraordinary means to retrieve someone from a fire. We are disciplined, if not fired, in contempt, if we fail to do what would have been heroic for an average citizen, but what is only the fulfillment of minimum responsibility when titled “fireman”.

The courage to claim who we are is one of the greatest acts we will ever perform in our lifetime. We must overcome our natural cowardice when we claim the responsibility of who we are. We must permanently give up the opportunity to be considered heroic from the average egotistic perspective. We must give up being average and become unsung heroes. My grandmother used to say, “Anything we do that others know about, we shall never be credited with.”

When we recognize we are meant to lead or direct others’ lives, we are accepting a deep and moral responsibility. Every order we issue must carry with it moral responsibility for that order. A Master’s ego would rather His slave remain egotistically responsible because then the Master doesn’t need to. It’s cheap and easy to issue an order that we expect the receiver to remain responsible for accepting and obeying.

Courage is being qualified and willing to accept full responsibility for our orders. We are no more beneficial than a leather “hints from Heloise” without the associated responsibility. All the platitudes about human dignity and intelligence and rights make great prose, but are nothing more than excuses to use and abuse, to the extent that another will accept our commands. Everything remains “their fault” because it was made clear they must think for themselves.

Issuing orders that are refutable is what every two-year old does naturally. The child indiscriminately demands everything it wants and the parents’ agreement with the orders is what protects the child from receiving more than it should have. The child takes no responsibility for anything demanded. The child doesn’t need to, because the parents do.

Issuing irrefutable orders is what matters, what makes a difference and what requires timbre and character, courage and strength. No child is capable of taking responsibility, so the parents must. Anyone who claims to command others, however, must take adult responsibility and not demand that the receiving slave carry the responsibility for acceptance. Making demands on another who must carry the responsibility for what is demanded is no different than the act of a demanding child.

The evolutionary purpose of every One who takes real responsibility, regardless of their title, is to find moral certainty. That means knowing for sure what to do. Until we have moral certainty we are still conducting the demanding acts of a child. Moral certainty only comes from identifying, developing and maintaining a direct connection to the “source” of all intelligence. The nature of that intelligence can be viewed differently by each, but acceptance and connection with IT is the critical essence of moral certainty.

Slaves are created without the personal capacity for moral certainty. Their connection is through us. If we don’t have a morally certain connection, we can’t give a slave theirs. We can’t give what we don’t already have. If a slave is capable of finding its own moral certainty, then it has no business pretending to be a slave. Slaves are not weak creatures who seek a co-dependent life to avoid developing their own morally certain connection. Slaves are potentially the strongest creatures of all of us.

It is in slaves' nature to only find the connection that allows moral certainty through their destined Owners. That’s what draws them to us. If not for this reason, then we are only enabling some weakness or pathology that would be better cured through professional help.

Admittedly, moral certainty is an advanced human state. Most don’t even hope to achieve the connection required in their lifetimes. The invitation to this group touches the part of you that knows there is something more, something beyond what humans can understand egotistically.

Our challenge here, isn’t to maintain our human egotistic identification and pride, not to discourage others from going beyond being average, but to surrender to our adulthood. Our task is to passionately proclaim our search for obedience, which, when found, defines all spiritual adulthood.

There are men and women in this group who have paid heavy prices to know who they are and to become who they are. We can learn from what they have gone through. We can save effort by knowing what they used to believe before they found and accepted the Truth. These people deserve and have My respect, none more than slaves who also suffer the societal denigration of their titles.

There is a law of life that we cannot give away what we don’t have. Until we have self respect we can’t give it to others. Whenever we find it difficult to give respect, we must examine the deficit of self respect we find in our own lives. Naming as arrogant those who have the courage to claim their roles in life is such an average thing for the ego to do to justify not claiming one's own role in life. It is so much easier to maintain the chance to become heroic by claiming no title, thereby avoiding the responsibility that would come with such a claim.

Maslow told us that anything worth doing well is worth doing poorly until we learn how. None of us begins at “perfect”. We all take small, stumbling steps while we learn to do what is extraordinary. We are measured in life by whether we encourage and facilitate those steps or whether we mock and discourage them. That’s what being either a part of the problem or of the solution is all about.

Another law of life is that we are either growing or dying. In each moment we make decisions which determine which is happening. We have the collective potential here to become the most alive creatures on earth.

My thanks to all of you who are doing just that.

Wife /gf /Partner Training Camp

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It’s Slave Training Boot Camp for Your Wife/gf/partner!

Many men who choose our wife training camp or boot camp for women either have little time to train their wife or girlfriend, or are too afraid it might blow up in their face, or have no clue how to go about it, or in rare cases are having another affair, or have another gf or in much more rare occasions are going away on vacation and want their wife trained quickly while they are away. The main benefit of boarding your wife for training is that more commands can be taught and imprinted to her in a shorter period of time. This is accomplished because she will participate in 3-5 training sessions each day and will also be living with a professional trainer. Between training sessions, your wife will have time to reflect on her training, socialize with one or two other slaves, snacks, and secluded walks on leash etc.

Unlike a few other wife obedience camps,  TrainHerWell Obedience camps teaches your wife in a home environment, as well as outdoors, around other women, squirrels, woods, dogs, people, cars, etc. We introduce the wife to as many different circumstances as possible because we don’t want your wife to get complacent in her training and not want to improve on her training.

TrainherWell Obedience Unlimited includes follow-up training sessions with your custom packages to make sure the training is long-lasting and effective. When you wife/gf/partner is returned home, a trainer will give you a full session demonstration and the first follow-up lesson.

Contact TrainherWell Obedience Unlimited. limited training slots available.   Our training is available on Amber Cayo Espanto in Belize. Amber Cayo Espanto is located on its own beautiful tropical private 24-acre island, 8-minutes by boat from San Pedro. American Airlines and Continental Airlines both offer service to Belize City. Guests (husbands) and slaves (wives) arriving at the Phillip S W Goldson International Airport (BZE) in Belize City will be greeted by our staff, where they will arrange a local flight to San Pedro in Ambergris Caye for approximately $120 round-trip, or helicopter transport directly to Cayo Espanto island for approximately $1,140 (US) one-way or $2,280 round-trip, plus tax, for four.  Note: If you arriving for training and choose to take the boat, You will be stripped naked upon boarding the boat and your garment tossed out at sea and you will be fitted with a shock collar and leash before arrival on Amber Cayo Espanto. Your husband may bring you in to Espanto. Your training begins on arrival. You are expected to embark on all four and will be led on all fours to your quarters. You are forbidden human speech, forbidden human posture, Your locomotion will be on all four unless commanded. You may be taught tricks as functions of arbitrary sounds or sounds of foreign lanugages (Portuguese, Q’eqchi’ Maya,  Mopan Maya, Yucatec Maya, or Belizean Creole )  so that you must learn them as any animal might without the benefit of an earlier understanding of the word used. If you are slow in learning, you will be punished, as would any other animal, when used too, it will be commonly be in the modality of the quadrupled. It will help you to understand what you are nfow, an animal totally subject to your Master's will. 

Flight times from Miami or Houston are a mere 2 hours. For subs traveling by local airline, on arrival at San Pedro airport you will be met by our training staff and transferred to the Espanto by boat.
Is your husband going to be around when you are trained?  This has been a problem at times and has been a blessing at other times, so we will consider this on an case by case basis. Generally, Husbands are expected to cool off on the nearby island of Ambergris Cays which has an excellent night life or are required to drop their wife off for the required duration. A daily progress report and a weekly comprehensive report on their wife's training is emailed to them at a pre-determined email address.

slave micromanagement

In BDSM terms, micromanagement can be defined as "atten[tion] to minor details in slave management: control [of] a a slave or her situation by paying extreme attention to minor details".^[5]

The general notion of micromanagement can be extended to a Master/slave context where the Master takes a bully approach, in the level of control and influence over the slave he is training.. Often, this excessive obsession with the most minute of details causes the slave to relinquish all control of her choice decisions  to focus and trust her Master with all of her choice decisions.

Rather than giving general instructions on smaller tasks and then devoting his time to

supervising larger concerns, the Master monitors and assesses every step of a protocol and process and avoids delegation of even the minute of all decisions to the slave.

Masters practicing Micromanagement are usually irritated when a slave makes a decisions without the expertise of the Master or consulting the Master, even if the decisions are totally within the slave's boundary.